self care

You are your only guarantee
Everyone else is an external factor

when you were born, you were there
and at every moment of every day until the end of your life, you are the one who will always be there

people will come and go
places will come and go
things will change

some people may leave you because they no longer love you or wish to be in your life
some will leave you because they die
some will exit for whatever other circumstance

get comfortable with your own company
stop trying to seek someone else to make you feel happy, loved and okay
learn to enjoy your own company
learn to be okay with your own presence

you do not need a relationship in order to be okay

be okay on your own
this way you can invite people into your life out of true desire rather than a need to escape your loneliness

spend time on your hobbies
invest in your personal development and career
read a book
take a class
find a recipe and cook something new
have a self care practice
write a blog
make time to spend with people who nourish you and make you feel seen, accepted, loved

remember that you are your only guarantee and you are the one who will be with you 24/7, 365 until death — make peace and friends with yourself

learn to be comfortable in your body
learn to be comfortable in your life
learn to feel safe and okay with yourself
(not in an arrogant I don’t need nobody typa way, but in a healthy “I feel at ease with myself and my life” typa way) and from this energy go out and make connections, enjoy your life

let go of the desperate need to have someone else complete you
you already are complete
you are your guarantee
everyone and everything else outside you will come and go,
until eventually you go too
(RIP)

it’s all temporary
make the best of it
enjoy your own company and consequently the right people will come into your life to add to it

when you treat yourself right and feel okay with yourself it’s easy to spot bad relationships and people who aren’t healthy for you — because you already know your standard and you are already okay on your own

You must first care for yourself before you can care about anyone else. We have been taught to always share and play nice with others – which is a beautiful thing. But when we always put everyone else before ourselves we compromise our own well being. We shave ourselves thin to the point where we begin to crack. We want others to be happy so we sacrifice our happiness for their sake. We say “yes” when we mean “no,” we give what we barely have, or sometimes we even go out of our way to extend offers that weren’t even asked of us. We may, for instance, offer to drive someone home even if we are tired when they didn’t ask for a ride. Or we may end up saying “yes” to going to that party we really rather have said “no” to. We put ourselves in uncomfortable situations because we want to do “right” by others. But how much thinner will we spread ourselves before we break?

PUT YOURSELF FIRST.
Once you are okay, then you can extend your hand to others. It is like the emergency instructions on the airplane say, “Put the mask on yourself first, then put the mask on your child.” How will you help another when you can barely breath yourself? It is so important that you focus on you. What do you need today? Have you taken care of yourself? Are you rested? Have you pampered yourself lately? Have you taken some “me” time? Whatever it is that lights you up and fills your life with vibrant energy – go for it! Once you are okay – then you can go save whoever you want.
It is okay to be selfish! You deserve some TLC too and who better to give that you but your own self? No one else can live your life. You must live your life! You must take care of yourself.

So take this week to DO YOU!
Put yourself first! Make sure you are fine, healthy, and all taken care of – then you will be strong enough to give to others without spreading yourself thin.

Always remember, there is NOTHING wrong with taking care of yourself, sticking up for yourself, loving yourself and above others making YOU your priority. GO YOU!

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