Ok. I need you to understand that you ARE alone
you are alone
read it again…
you ARE alone
You can have people around you
You can even be having sex
but you ALONE are experiencing what you experience
Yes there is someone next to you
But you ALONE are having that experience
There is no one else within you but you
Each being is its own being
When you get comfortable with this truth
You can learn to stop trying to get an external thing to ultimately fulfill you
Because there is no external thing that could
I do think that perhaps there are more ideal external circumstances
Environments that are more conducive to feelings of happiness and joy, comfort, fulfillment
Like being at a beautiful beach with your beloved sipping a mojito will be much more delightful than getting your foot bitten off by a shark
So yes – there are perhaps more favorable external circumstances
But it doesn’t change that in all circumstances – favorable, unfavorable or in between — you ALONE are the ONE experiencing the experience
Get comfortable with your own company
You don’t need to go anywhere or find anyone or anything in order to BE
You already are
and “wherever you go, there you are”
Be okay with you, whether you are standing at the grocery store, sitting on the toilet, making love, sitting in traffic or bored in your room with nothing to do for the evening.
Just fucking be okay with yourself already, alright???
You are alone. That’s it, there’s nothing to be resolved there. Being alone is not a problem.
Being alone does not have to mean lonely.
Loneliness does not happen only as a result of being alone. You can be in a crowd of people and still feel lonely. You can be in a relationship and still feel lonely.
Feeling lonely and being alone are two different things
You can be alone in the shower singing joyfully to your shampoo bottles and feel perfectly fine
And you can also be alone and feel lonely
lonely is a feeling
Alone is what you are
and it shouldn’t scare you that you are alone (you already ARE… and look at you now, just reading these words all fine and shit in your aloness. See? It’s not scary. You’re fine. YOU’RE FINE)
The fact that you are alone and you can just BE in your lonesome, that should empower you not scare you
You are your guarantee
Even when everyone and everything falls away, you will still be the ONE it all falls away from, and who will be there on the other side of it all? Yep. You got — YOU.
Until you fall away too and it all fades to nothing, but that’s a whole other story