There are so many people out there saying so many different things that it can become really overwhelming sometimes. One particular type of statement that really gets on my nerves is the one that sounds something like: “It’s not this, but THIS.” The problem with this kind of statement is that sooner or later someone else will just say the exact opposite: “No, It’s not ‘THIS,’ but THAT!”
People will always have something to say about life and how it should or shouldn’t be, but at the end of the day it’s not their place to tell you what you should do or how you should live.
Only you have the power to decide what to do with your life and in which direction to stir it.
Instead of asking what others want from you or what they think you should do, start consulting your own being. Next time you get an urge to ask your friends what they think you should do, stop for a moment and look inside yourself and ask your very own self: “Hey, [speak your name], do you think I should do this?” Start to look within your own self and trust your decisions. Everyone has an opinion, and YOUR opinion is just as valid.
Trust your intuition. Trust the feelings that are guiding you. Let your own person shine. Let your ideas flow. Stop worrying about earning the approval of others and begin to approve yourself.
Every day tell yourself these words:
I am enough.
I approve myself.
I accept myself as I am.
I am capable of making my own choices.
I trust my own being.
I believe in myself.
I believe I will succeed.
Let your own voice be heard. Free yourself from needing the validation of others and start looking to yourself for validation. It can be tempting to want others to pat our backs so that we can feel we are accepted and belong, but once you start to accept yourself it will not matter who is for or against you because you will have everything you need – YOU.
Only YOU can walk your path and only YOU are living your life.
Your life does not belong to your friends.
Your life does not belong to your family.
Your life belongs to YOU – and YOU are the author of your story.
Be free to live your life according to your liking without fear of the judgement of others.
As long as you are not hurting yourself or others, there is no reason to be afraid of being yourself.
YOU ARE FREE TO BE YOU!
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April 26, 2015 at 6:27 pm
I agree with you so much in this. The problem seems to me that when you are with someone else, specially if it is a committed relationship, that the most usual thing is that you to try and please that person by letting them change you to their needs and views. That I believe is the greatest hurdle to overcome, because many times when your companion wishes to accomodate your feelings and desires to please them, you allow yourself to flow so as not cause any friction between the two of you. This diminishes you and deprives your partner of experiencing your own individuality, just for their sake of having their comfort satisfied at your expense. Sitting here in a deli, just seen a couple sit down to have lunch. Soup and pita. The owner just offered them a plate and fork for the pita which the girl had opened instead of munching into it like her boyfriend. She was eating it with a spoon. The boyfriend said “no”, we arw fine. He is more attuned to his way than his girlfriend’s needs. She did not speak up. He chose to change her without asking her if she wanted the plate and fork. He is taking her for granted and changing her ways to his view of things, instead of asking her and letting her choose her wishes and ideas.
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June 2, 2015 at 2:31 pm
I needed this 🙂
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June 2, 2015 at 2:32 pm
I nEeded this
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